Daily OM: September 18, 2012 ( Read more... )

Today I think about language as a tool used in restorative justice.

Accountability is a big part of the restorative justice models used by organizations like CJI. One of the ways they encourage participants in their program and groups to take ownership of their own experiences and expressions by replacing the ambiguity of "you" statements with the ( Read more... )

the funny thing about needs and wants, is that we choose - every day, every waking minute of our lives - how we meet them. that we *have* needs and wants is not a choice, much like emotional reactions are not a choice; but like emotional reactions, what we do with them, in response to them, is very much about choice ( Read more... )

after this afternoon's post, matthew and i continued the discussion from last night about perceived relational shifts versus misidentified bucket errors. the end result is the understanding that things *will* change, short of the two of us dropping all our current relationships and never developing others ever again. we're going to meet new people ( Read more... )

the problem with using passive labelling language to describe relationships, as i have once again discovered, is that unless you detail the label down into the realm of subatomically-miniscule accuracy, there are going to be things you miss communicating to those trying to keep track of what relationships you're including in which buckets, and who ( Read more... )

hrm.

moonlight_mile has led me into an interesting thinky conundrum, back in the extensive comment trail on this post from yesterday. in a comment conversation, i wrote: "we're poly, by open agreement, even when we're not actively having sex with other people".

can a rational corollary of my statement, therefore, be ""we're monogamous, by open agreement, even ( Read more... )

strange things hook together in my brain when i can't sleep in and haven't had coffee and don't want to be awake and don't want to get up yet because i know i'll be cranky. (so i'm writing this with fresh-roasted Tanzanian Peaberry, from the sofa in the living room. maybe there IS something to this "wireless connection" fad after all ( Read more... )

redsash is rapidly becoming one of the most challenging people i know :)

not that i got to see *his* belly-button, but lunchtime conversations have, as they always do with him, provoked some interesting navel-gazing and self-examination.

( yes, it's Another One Of THOSE Posts )